- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow.
To gain respect from others, you have to respect yourself first. People will give you their undying respect as long as they recognize that you portray these 3 key attributes: reliability, integrity and mindfulness. Because these qualities demonstrates your level of consciousness and maturity.
When people respect you, it's easier to get their support. To get people to give you continuous support, also requires that you find yourself. Here are ways to help you make an impact on the people you want respect and support
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1. Be exuberant and passionate about what you do and your life.
People love those who exudes realism and passionate about their lives, especially on what they do. Think about this: What stimulates you find people who always talk about their "good ideas" and what they want to do, yet never start something? Now it is a dampener!
2. Be unique and individualistic in your views.
Are you unique and stand out with your own style and personality? If you are afraid to give your opinion, and would rather take care, we can assure you that it will be difficult to command respect from others. And without respect, no support. This does not mean that you must constantly come up with new innovations. It just means you do not suck up to people just because you want validation. The best validation is to be true to yourself.
3. Be a good listener. All great listeners are magnetic and charismatic.
There is no charm equal to that a good listener. True listening is an expression of attention, patience and sincerely want to understand what the other person says. It also promotes good relationships.
4. Be a lifelong student. Let people know you're willing to learn from them and be genuine about it.
Learning is growing and still learning. You can not learn everything by yourself. If we really want to grow, you need others on the road. And when you show people your willingness and enthusiasm to learn from them, you will be amazed at how helpful and happy, they will be supporting you.
Be open and get to know people who are different from you. If you are interested in something, never be afraid to ask questions. You will not be ridiculed for showing real interest.
Do you know people who have stopped learning? Can you find them interesting to have around? Probably not! So do yourself the favor of being an eager learner.
5. Authentic and credible.
Before you make a promise, so make sure you can deliver. Keeping your word is very crucial for building trust and credibility. There is no more damaging to your image than to have people believing in you and let them down.
There are times you can really try to fulfill your promise, and it just does not work out. In this case, be honest about it and apologize. No one wants that to you.
6. Be generous.
A generous heart gives freely without having any expectactions. Do not try to buy people's loyalty or support. It will backfire on you! You will get more benefit and profit from giving from your heart, rather than being calculating. Even if you do not get something in return, the eternal laws of reciprocity find a way to balance things out to you and give you your taxes.
7. Be direct and have boundaries.
When you have something to say, just say so and let people know where you stand. Let people know what you want and do not want, freeing you and those around you. Do not allow people to go the whole you. Let them know your limits.
For example, avoid lying on a proposal that might not interest you, an appropriate response might be: "I'm sorry it does not work for me right now." This is a simple and truthful answer making it easy for you and for others to come forward.
In conclusion, that you trust and respect yourself? If you do not, nobody else will. This means especially be true to yourself and what you believe in. Just as Ralph Waldo Emerson said "Whatever games are played with us, we must play no games with ourselves."
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