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19 March 2010

How to Tell if You Have Chemistry With The Love of Your Life

When you're attracted to someone, you can see it from the start. They make you feel special or make your face curl into a smile whenever they are around. You can not explain it, but you can feel it right into your toes. But are these feelings enough to tell if you have the right chemistry or not? Here is what you should be looking for:

How do you feel when they are around?

When you're around a certain person, take a personal inventory of how you feel. Are you happy or are you less than happy? Try to find out how you feel every time they walk into the room. Are you keen to see them and feel eager to talk with them and be in their presence? The more positive you feel about the way this person makes you feel, the more chemistry you want.

How do you feel when they are not around?

You do not want to feel that you can not go on, but you feel like something is missing when the person is not around? Do you somehow feel you do not have as much fun as you could if they were? Once the person is not nearby, you should feel a little less than happy. You might feel like you want them to be around you right then and that everything would be better if they were with you.

How do they feel when you are around?

This is a tricky thing to measure, you can never really tell what a person feels, unless you ask them. But there are subtle clues a person may give out, can show you if they have your business or not.

• Open body language - If they try to get by talking to you, with their arms uncrossed and not crossing any other part of their body, it shows that they want to remain open for you and what you say. This is a good sign that they are attracted to you.

• Eye contact - while the other person should not leering at you, making direct eye contact when talking to you, and when they listen to you is a great way to tell if you have chemistry or not.

• Increased pupil dilation - This is a little harder to tell, but if you get eye contact with them, you will see that this happens. The black part of the eye will be greater when a person is happy to talk to someone that they like. It may not be incredibly different, but it will certainly change in size.

• A relaxed expression - not everyone will smile from ear to ear when they talk to anyone they want, but they must act relaxed and calm when they are around you. Your face should not be stiff or strained. When you see crinkle around the eyes, this is a sign that the person is relaxed, as they look at you.

What they say to you?

Chemistry can also be seen in the way that someone talks to you. People who are positive about their lives when they speak generally feel positive about the person with whom they speak. Subconscious, they try to show that they are a good person, so they are only showcasing the good in life.

Other things you can look for include:

• A tendency to make plans - When you speak with someone, and they are already making plans for you two to see each other more or do something exciting down the road, this is a sign that they want to spend more time with you .

• Attempts Humor - Not everyone is as funny as a comedian, but when someone tries to be humorous to you, it is a sign that they want to make you happy and that they really want to please you. Of course, false in trying to be funny, can go over badly.

• A pressure when they speak - whatever they say that if anyone tries to touch you when they talk to you - and it need not be anything more than a quick touch - it is a sign of good chemistry between you, especially when you do not turn away from touch.

Good chemistry is hard to find, but when you find it, you know.

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