Are You Giving From A Place of Horror or Hope Five Steps to Healing Your Way to Empowered Giving

In times of need, leads many people to the occasion and give what is in their hearts. But, like everything is the way we give a reflection of how we live every other aspect of our lives. So even giving can become fodder for our own internal transformation. It all boils down to one question ... you give from a place of fear and terror, or from a place of hope and abundance? , How do you provide and the places in your spirit, which presents, Birte, is a reflection or a mirror of how you live your life.

After the devastating news arrived in newspapers around the world that New Orleans was under twenty feet of water in the wake of Hurricane Katrina, many people - perhaps man - immediately went online with a credit card in hand to donate money to help flooded communities. The question is, in the moments leading up to your computer, what was the deeper feelings and thoughts that drove your answer?

Were you appalled that something so terrible could happen?

Did you feel helpless, that such an accident could happen to you?

Were you stunned by how vulnerable the people who live in Mississippi and New Orleans was and is?

Do you sense your own vulnerability?

Do you feel guilt that you are safe, happy and well ... while so many others right now, is in danger?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, recognizing that at least some of your desire to give comes from a place of fear in you. In other words, you give from a place of fear or horror.

Giving from a position of terror or fear is not in itself a bad thing. But it is something to observe and be aware of. Often we express the love and care for others that we most need to give ourselves.

When you find that you react to your fear, it takes time to focus and healing on the part of you that are afraid.

Firstly, to identify the fear. Look at the person or organization that you are offering support. What are they afraid that this organization brings up for you? What situation, predicament, problem, or illness do you fear will happen to you? Whether it is fear of losing everything, fear of getting cancer, the fear of living in misery, fear of being discriminated against, or the fear of dying - to understand for yourself the fear in you is present . On a piece of paper, write down your fears.

Secondly, to identify the feeling. Let yourself feel your fear of getting cancer living in misery, to be suppressed, or face death. What does that fear like? Identify the specific sense. Is it anger, grief, despair, hopelessness, resentment, anxiety, numbness? Write down the specific sense of living under fear.

Third, tracing the feeling. Allow yourself to recall three other times in your life when you felt that same feeling before. Trust whatever memories from your past come to the surface first. Sometimes the episodes you remember to have little in common with the current fear, but trust that the feeling is somehow connected. Write down each of the experience and remember exactly how you felt. Notice how these three events of the past and is affiliated somehow emotionally to the fear that you are experiencing now.

Fourth, understand the healing that is needed. Choose one of the three episodes from your past - preferably one where you were the youngest. Looking at this situation and with an open heart, allow yourself to see what you longed for at that time. What did your spirit desperately wants and needs? Did it want security, understanding, love, hope, awareness, kindness, praise? What did you yearn for? Write down what you notice.

Fifth, finally, give yourself healing today. Ask yourself how you can give yourself what you have longed for in the past. If you've longed for love, maybe today you could see yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how wonderful you are. If you've longed for hope, maybe today, you can turn on a light that represents hope in your living room. If you've longed for attention, maybe today, you can write you a letter of recognition and praise. In other words, give yourself today, whatever healing you longed for in the past.

As you take the effect of healing, let you feel your relationship with your fear change and evolve.

When you cure your own spirit, in conjunction with that you give to others, you open yourself for an opportunity to give from a place of hope and empowerment instead of fear and horror.

The difference between the power to give and fear-based giving is dramatic. Not only for you but also for the recipient.

Once you've healed yourself, you keep the open spaces of hope for others. Thus, you give not only your support but you also give energy empowerment, opportunity and strength. And is not that what we had hoped to give anyway?