The 5 Top Reasons to Call Off a Wedding

If you are dating someone and things are looking ahead, you may be thinking marriage. But too many people make the mistake of jumping head first into a commitment without thinking things through properly. It's easy to do when you have fallen for someone, but there are some things you should consider before committing to spend the rest of your life with your partner.

1. Has your partner ever abused you? Abuse comes in many forms, but can be divided into physical and emotional. While physical abuse is usually obvious to all, emotional abuse are harder to define. If your partner is purposely make you feel bad about yourself, it is a sure fire sign of emotional abuse. If your partner is supposedly accidental that you are feeling down, but it happens on a regular basis, it's usually a sign of emotional abuse. While sometimes difficult to recognize and even harder to accept that emotional abuse is a serious problem. Ask yourself if you feel just as happy as you want when you are with your partner. If not, you should put your wedding plans on hold for now and seek help. Nobody wants to spend the rest of their lives being subjected to abuse, and what your partner may say, remember, there is no excuse for abuse, you deserve better.

2. Are you sexually compatible? This means a lot more than just join pieces together. Different people certainly have different attitudes to sex. One of the great things that make people each have different tastes, and sexual desires fall within this. If you have completely different attitudes to sex, you should not necessarily call things off, you should spend some time trying to work things out. But one sex for reasons that you might want to call things off is if one partner is still hurtful during sex, again, either physically or emotionally. You must search within yourself and decide whether you are comfortable with having sex like the rest of your life or whether you prefer a lover and more in tune with your sexual tastes.

3. Has your partner ever betrayed you? Like many aspects of a relationship, betrayal comes in many forms. To begin with, has your boyfriend ever cheated on yourself? If they have, and you take them back, how can you be sure they will not do it again? While some people choose to forgive an unfaithful partner, all most everybody will never forget. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with them wonder if they could cheat on you with someone else? Not all betrayals involve cheating. Some people steal from their partners. If this has happened to you, you should really question their motives for doing so. If your partner really love you so why would they steal from you? Will probably do it again? And you will be wondering?

4. Has your partner has an addiction? Although not necessarily a reason to end things, this is a reason to put wedding on hold, and definitely a reason to seek help. If your partner is suffering from an addiction, such as alcohol, drugs or gambling, can you imagine what effect it can have on your married life? Can you trust them not to misspend or steal money to finance their addiction? What negative consequences can have a dependency on yourself or your children (either future child or children present)? Do not despair, most can abusers be cured, but the process is long an difficult, but if you really love that person, you can put your wedding on hold and help them through their problems.

5. Do you have similar attitudes towards children? Although this may or may not be at the forefront of your mind right now, the issue of children will most likely be raised at some point in your marriage. It is important to discuss these issues before you take the plunge. If your partner has a completely different attitude to children than you, you may want to cancel the wedding, however difficult that might be. As the number of marriages that are second marriages for at least one person in the pair is growing, their is a greater chance of children from previous relationships are about. This may affect people's interest in having more children. If your partner wants children, but you do not, or vice-versa, you will need to consider whether you are fit for marriage or not.

Although not all of the above reasons, scream "than things right now," they are all warning signs that unless something is done, you can be on the road head first into a marriage, you can undo. Remember, call things off is never easy, but it is often easier than a painful and costly divorce, and much better than to spend the rest of your life in a relationship you are unhappy with.