* Greetings. No joke, how your letter opens may be the difference between the things being read and things burned. Therefore, you want to make you sincerely as sincere and catchy as possible. It is also best to minimize your intention. If you write your letter for reconciliation purposes or just to ease your conscience and get some closure, you want your letter to be written with the same level of caring and tone. Generally, open your letter with a basic, truthful statement a good idea. Ex: I miss you.
* Creep, creep, creep. Now is no time for pride. Once you have specified how you feel, it's time to get serious. Cheating, which you probably painfully aware, are a serious offense and you should get down on your verbal hands and knees. Sorry. Say you're sorry even if you already have. You want to expand on it. Apologize for any pain you follow any deception, every little detail in your case, etc. here to emphasize that what you did was wrong, that your partner was worthy of suffering, and that you feel intense remorse over what has occurred. Do not skimp here. Make your apology as comprehensive and candid as possible.
* Make them an offer they can not refuse. If you write the letter in the hope of reconciliation, which always is a long-shot, you must provide a desirable way for reconnection. Chances are a party cheated in the least reluctant to date again. They've probably discussed at length with friends and family who have undoubtedly assured them that you are not worth the ground you walk on. This means you need to go beyond. Tell them that you will do anything to get them back (and mean it). This can be anything from couples counseling that makes a public statement, to wash the next ten years, etc.
* Drum Up These Memories. Finally parlay your excuse for a reminiscence of a good time you had together. Ex: I miss the way we used to go cycling on Saturday or reading the newspaper together. Do not be afraid to be openly romantic here. It's your romantic story that you need to fall back on, as your recent activity has been-ahem-less than admirable.
* Close with dignity. Realize that you are in a weak position and that you understand that you do not deserve a response. But also remind your ex, you are only human and humans make mistakes. This does not mean that you do not love them or a terrible person. Appeal to their humanistic side here. If you want an answer, provide the recipient with a way to reach you, but please be prepared for a response or an angry themselves. This unfortunately comes with the territory.
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