Don’t Smother Your Mate

We have all had either the experience of feeling suffocated in a relationship, or we have made it smeared, leading to this sensation. It is easy to get caught in the trap where you want to love someone so much that you suffocate them, but there is a big difference between loving someone and strangling them. Once you know the difference it will be easier to keep yourself and your relationships on track, so none of you feel stifled any time.

The biggest difference between loving and smothering is the fact that smeared all about selfishness. People who strangle a look at what they want from the other person what they need and how often they will be with their love interest. Love is different in that it is far more generous and giving so that you are able to feel much sympathy for someone to give them their space. This may be a fine line, but it is one that you want to observe, if you want your relationship to work.

If you are smothering your friend you will be more demanding of them. When we stifle a person we want information right now, and we demand answers to the questions we answer. These questions can be about the future of when you will be together next, etc. Love is much gentler and when you're in love, instead of stifling, you're waiting for answers to come naturally. Again, this is a subtle but important difference that must be met if you want to succeed in your relationship.

If you are smothering someone you are not really taking into account what the other person wants. For example, you can not give them the space they have told you that they need, and you can just continue to do what you think is best, although it is not. Love is found where both people take into account not only what they want from the relationship, but what their mate wants as well. This is an important difference, and can often help you define whether you are smeared or love your partner.

Those that stifle often tell their friends what to think, feel and do. When you strangle a person you are trying to control them. This is different than love, because when you love someone you might not always share the same feelings, thoughts and actions, but you should respect and support for autonomy. They are two individual people, and you should include it instead of trying to control everything that your love interest does.

As you can see, there are some very fundamental differences between those who stifle and those who love. While a lot of people who choke starts out with good intentions, they can go wrong when you forget the difference between loving and smothering. Observe these differences to have a really healthy relationship!