Living in a Sexless Relationship

Sex is a human need. Most of us will admit that we love sex, it is a part of ourselves that we share with the people we love. What happens when you are in a relationship where sex is just not happening? How do you reconcile this? Many people feel like they are all alone and no one could possibly understand how they feel, but there is an alarming number of people who are in a relationship where sex is just not happening very often, if at all.

If you want to have sex with the person you are married or in a relationship with, this is normal. Psychologists have stated for decades that sex is a genuine human need, and when we are without it, it throws all of our needs, out of balance and can really eat away at who we are and what we want from life and even how we approach us life.

If you do not have sex in your relationship, you need to sit down and talk with your partner. Ask them what is going on? Why do they not want to have sex? If they insist that they just do not feel the urge, suggest that you try new things together to try to ignite that spark again. If they still do not feel it, you have to suggest that you see a doctor together as there are many very simple reasons why people experience a decrease in their libido. When you do something you do together, you can help to give your mate the support they need to get better so you can begin to enjoy intimacy together again.

If your spouse just does not want to have sex and do not want to do something about it, you need to tell them that this is not acceptable to you. Tell them that you do not want to make them uncomfortable, but you have a physical need to have sex and you want to be close to them, to express your love for them. Tell them you want to find a kind of balance between their wishes and yours. If they still do not want to compromise you might want to suggest that you seek advice.

A sexless relationship can be very stressful. Not only are you not having your physical needs met, you do not get your psychological needs met, and you may wonder what is wrong with you that the person who supposedly loves you do not want to have sex with you. You need to reassess the relationship and decide whether it is something you want to settle for the long term. A sexless relationship is something most people do not want to live with, and you do not either.