Indulging in Fantasies

Everyone has fantasies, whether they are open about it, or more shy about sharing them. A place that you feel safe to share these fantasies are in your relationship. If you love someone and you trust them, you should be able to tell them all about your fantasies and maybe even enjoy them. Sometimes when you are able to share them will you find that you can live them out and really enjoy them. It may take a bit of courage to tell the person you are dating or married to your fantasies, but when you do you may be pleasantly surprised.

If you want to bring your fantasies in the flesh, you will discover that you must begin by determining what your fantasies are. Many times we have an idea but have never really looked into what we want to do. Explore what you want to do and think about how you can put it into words and share it.

The next step is to share the fantasy with the person you love and trust. If you are a bit shy about sharing such information, why not write it down? You can let your girlfriend that you enjoy being with them and that your relationship has encouraged you to open up and want to share your fantasies with them. Chances are that they will feel flattered that you are open and honest and want to share your most private and intimate fantasies.

Not expect your girlfriend to respond in any way, just an opportunity for them to respond. Depending on what your fantasies are, they can make a move to fulfill them, that instant, or they might have to think about whether it is something they are familiar. Everyone has different comfort levels and you must give the person you sleep with the ability to react to what you have shared with them in a way where they are comfortable.

Be willing to negotiate. There may be facets of your fantasies that really appeals to your girlfriend, but other aspects are a turn off or anything, they are not willing to do. Compromise and meet half way, it is better to have experienced a part of your imagination they’ve never experienced anything of it at all. Who knows when you share a part of your imagination, it can open doors for the full experience. Just make sure you do not get mad or defensive, if your girlfriend is not immediately swept away by your fantasies, because their idea of a good time can not be the same as yours!