How to Make “Friends with Benefits” Work

If you are friends with someone attractive chances are that sooner or later you will play with the idea of having a sexual relationship with them. Many people with back, because they just want to be friends, and they do not want to mess things up. You can continue to be friends with someone, even if you sleep together, but you must be committed to keeping the friendship alive in addition to having a sexual relationship.

Sleeping with a friend can really be an exciting experience because you're comfortable enough with them to avoid the embarrassing moments, but also because you have a connection that can make sex very hot. Of course, when you have sex with a friend, it can be difficult to stay just friends. How can you make it?

If you end up sleeping with a friend, and it was not planned, you must make a clean break afterwards. Either do not let friend sleep over, or if they sleep over you must be sure that one part ways tomorrow. This will give a clear indication that while it was very fun, a relationship is in its infancy. You can call your friend later and make a joke or comment about sex, but then proceed to your normal subjects. This will realize that you were together, but will give a clear indication that it was a time thing.

If you both go into having sex to know what you do, you must be clear that you are not looking for a relationship. Let them know that you want to just be friends, you just want to be with them physically, too. This allows you to draw that line in the beginning, giving them a chance to back out if they were looking for something more.

It is important if you are going to sleep with a friend, to return to your normal activities as a friend afterwards. If you go bowling every Wednesday evening, be sure you go and you behave in the manner that you have always behaved. This will allow your friend to check that you are still connected as friends and this is separate from your sexual connection.

If you prefer not to continue, you must make sure that you do not sleep together again. This is especially important if you think that your friend will have more with you. Make clear, if you will continue to have sex, you are just friends and if they disagree, or your friend gets clingy, stop having sex. If you want to remain friends, you need to keep these lines really clear and you must be willing to withdraw physically, if things start to get a bit superficial.